What to do if a family member is hurting you

We are living in stressful times. Everyone is struggling with their own feelings and emotions. That’s normal.

However, being stressed out does NOT make it ok for any person to physically hurt anyone else.

Let’s say that again: domestic violence is never OK under any circumstance.

If you are in a situation where a family member is hurting you, it is important for you to get help, both for yourself and any other family members who might be affected. It might feel scary to think about asking for help because you don’t want to make an already bad situation even worse for you or your family. That is understandable. However, there are lots of trained professionals in the Bay Area who have dedicated their entire lives to helping people just like you and families just like yours.

If you’re looking for support on how to handle a difficult situation and what you should do, check out the resources below. And remember, if you or your loved ones ever find yourselves in immediate danger, call 911.

Alameda County

Mobile Response Team (MRT)
24-hour crisis line for victims of domestic violence 510-757-5123
As a program of the Family Violence Law Center, the Mobile Response Team provides emergency assistance and advocacy to women and children in immediate danger of violence. The services available in this program include:

Building Futures with Women and Children (BFWC)
24 hour Crisis Line 1-866-A WAY OUT (1-866-292-9688)
http://www.bfwc.org/

Emergency Shelter Program (ESP)
24 hour Crisis Line (888) 339-SAFE
http://www.espca.org/

Safe Alternatives to Violent Environments (SAVE)
24 hour Crisis Line 1-510-794-6055
http://www.save-dv.org/

San Francisco County

Domestic Violence Hotlines – San Francisco County
https://www.211bayarea.org/sanfrancisco/crisis-services/crisis-intervention/domestic-violence-hotlines-2/

Domestic Violence Shelters – San Francisco County
https://www.211bayarea.org/sanfrancisco/housing/shelters/domestic-violence-shelters/

Resources for Domestic Violence Survivors
https://sfmohcd.org/resources-domestic-violence-survivors

Marin County

Marin Center for Domestic Peace
The Center for Domestic Peace (C4DP) provides services and programs that protect and enhance the safety of victims of domestic violence. It offers three different 24-hour hotlines at (415) 924-6616 (English), (415) 924-3456 (Español, linea de apoyo), and (415) 924-1070 (ManKind).

The Center for Domestic Peace also offers resources for parents and teens with a hotline available Monday-Friday, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. (415) 526-2557.

Domestic Violence Shelters – Marin County
https://www.211bayarea.org/marin/housing/shelters/domestic-violence-shelters/

San Mateo County

Domestic Violence Hotlines – San Mateo County
https://www.211bayarea.org/sanmateo/crisis-services/crisis-intervention/domestic-violence-hotlines-2/

Domestic Violence Shelters – San Mateo County
https://www.211bayarea.org/sanmateo/housing/shelters/domestic-violence-shelters/

San Mateo County Child Abuse Hotline
(650) 595-7922
The San Mateo County Human Services Agency provides a 24-hour hotline to report the suspected abuse or neglect of a child.

National

National Domestic Violence Hotline
Call 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) to talk to someone in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential. An online chat feature is also available.
https://www.thehotline.org/help/